4 Reasons Why Someone is Still Cheated on by Their Partner

Cheating is something that is very much avoided by couples in all parts of the world because this action can make a long-established relationship fall to pieces.

Well why does that happen ? it can happen if one partner feels that his/her rights in the relationship are not being fulfilled, whatever it is and he/she sees him/herself as the partner who doesn't really know and understand.

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Because most of you might be thinking, "why would anyone be in a relationship that is so beautiful, looks like it will last for a very long time even until they become grandparents" but behind the scenes, one of them decides to have an affair, well of course we as ordinary people will not understand what really happened right ?

Well on this occasion i will give some of my opinions which I have summarized into several main points why they do the affair, and these points you can see below, well what are they? let's discuss together :

1. No Longer Attractive

Someone is willing to have an affair in front of or behind their partner just because they have a statement that their partner is no longer attractive, well with this kind of clichéd reason that they can easily tell this to people.

Now unattractive here could mean a wide range, whether appearance, thoughts/mindset, traits and the like which can make the cheater then step away little by little and re-build a relationship with someone else.

Of course, this type of person will not feel grateful and enough, when they see that their new partner has a flaw, they will search again and again, and in the end they will only look for someone attractive and interesting continuously, who can be their future partner.

2. Already Different in Principle

When a relationship is shrouded by different principles then the relationship is only a matter of time until the relationship destroyed by itself, well this is what people who are having an affair might feel.

They think that their relationship with their ex- previous partner has different principles, all kinds of principles begin to look different when they talk about minor things until it becomes a bigger, such as maybe the husband / man wants to stay at home on weekends but the wife / woman wants to go on vacation, from these small differences in principles can slowly lead to the next big problem and make one of the couples willing to let go of the relationship they have built for years.

3. No Support System

This can also happen if one partner is not sensitive to their partner, when one partner wants a support system, but the other partner doesn't care and feels it is not necessary or indeed he/she is not used to being a support system.

Now the effect can be seen at the end where those who feel they lack a support system then look for someone who might be able and have the support system, well they hope that the support system that the other person might have can help them.

And of course up to a certain point those who are looking for a support system may have a relationship with the person who provides the support system (if indeed the person is the opposite sex from him and is able to make him comfortable), of course infidelity ensues.

4. Not Appreciated

An affair occurs starting from not being appreciated by a partner, not being appreciated in various ways, whether never helping with housework, looking after the child and so on when the wife certainly needs a break from her daily work.

Then there is also a husband who is not appreciated by his wife, the husband is tired from work then decides to go home from work but the wife who does not care about him then starts to bother him or give bad and negative things to the husband, the effect is of course the husband is a little more angry and annoyed then he can think of looking for someone third party who can make his heart and mind calm, well infidelity happens.

Well not only that but there are also other things that might happen, such as not respecting the words of a partner, a simple example like this :

When one of the female partners says that she wants to marry her partner immediately, the man who listens then agrees to that.

The next day the man started to be willing to buy their wedding rings, the woman who saw this was very happy, but at the end, the man apparently made a joke where he didn't really agree to the plan to marry his partner, well The woman feels disappointed and then can only reflect on her boyfriend's behavior, now that is also part of her partner's sense of "disrespect" which can lead to her partner having an affair.

5. Wife Doesn't Provide for Husband's Inner Life

Most men are sometimes reluctant to divorce, it is because they seem to keep their partner's heart, and see their partner perfect in all the fields they live in such as housewives, washing clothes, making breakfast, taking care of the child and so on, but the name of a cracked relationship is impossible to patch back like a punctured tire.

Well divorce cases usually start from infidelity, and the reason some men cheat on their spouses could be because the wife does not provide Inner Living to her husband as often as her husband wants.

In effect, the husband looks for other women out there who can fulfill these sexual desires, and the reason why they keep their wives and do not try to divorce them is because no one can replace the habit of being a wife who is already good and good at work.

Conclusion

Well maybe that's 4 reasons why there are still people who are cheated on, both men and women, it's actually not the face that men are looking for, indeed men will see a woman's face at the beginning when they first have a relationship.

However, the longer the relationship, most of them just realized that physicality and wealth are not the determinants of comfort and strength of a bond of love with each other in a relationship, but rather helping each other in all problems and also understanding each other's shortcomings that can strengthen the inner bond with a partner.

Here are 6 Ways to Avoid a Mass Shooting at Your School

A mass shooting is a negative activity carried out by a group of people who want to turn an entire school into a massacre scene. 

The purpose of the perpetrators do it because they are hurt by the bullying that happens to them, do not have friends at school who can overcome their depression so most of them end up tragically either committing suicide or becoming a killing machine in order to release the mental burden they have.

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Now from incident after incident that continues to occur every year, the United States government finally took an action where some firearms ownership is limited and also some schools where students who are studying are given a facility to protect themselves from the mass shooting incident, although not all schools are applied this facility.

Now on this occasion i will provide 6 ways to avoid mass shootings that might happen at any time, well what are the things that need to be prepared and how long does it take to be able to avoid it? let's discuss together below :

1. Install Portable CCTV to Phone on the Front / Backyard Door and in front of the Bathroom

This is very useful when you really want to see a movement from students / teachers or school janitors, because you can see some people who might have suspicious attention on a certain day.

So that way you can quickly take action to all students who are near the place where the suspicious person is to take cover so that no unwanted victims occur.

2. Always Be Suspicious of Someone Carrying a Black Travel Bag

Always be suspicious of people who carry a black travel bag or black bag because it could contain a firearm that will be used to shoot someone.

Why should you be suspicious of people carrying black travel bags ? Because most perpetrators of mass shootings usually carry larger firearms to kill people like the AK47 where that firearm is faster than carrying a pistol/revolver.

Of course this method is not suitable, but make sure the school guards do the checking stage first at the school gate when someone brings a travel bag to school.

3. Prepare Wide and Large Diameter Steel Boards in Each Class

Using steel at least can slightly dampen gunfire, giving children and teachers some time to do the next thing like creating a bulletproof room and start calling the police to come to the scene.

So the way to use it is very easy, by blocking both windows and doors with the steel board when the perpetators is walking towards the class.

4. Pretending to be Dead

You can do this, but the success rate may be lower because the perpetrator usually shoots the body of the person he has killed to convince him once again that the person is dead.

So you can use this fake death method if you have no other choice, by anointing your whole body with the blood of your dead friend or if you don't want to do it then always carry a bag of fresh chicken blood when going to school, when the incident occurs you can easily open and smear your whole body with chicken blood in the place where many bodies of the shooting victims occurred.

5. Hire a More School Guard In Your School

You can submit a request to school administrators to hire more school guards and place them at several points (such as at the back door, front door), well with this method we can ensures that some items carried by students or other people can be checked if they want to enter the school area or area itself.

6. Adding Multiple Mass Shooting-Specific ALARMS

You can propose to the principal/school management to use a school security system in the form of a special alarm for the mass shooting case.

Where the sound of the alarm is slightly different from the alarm in general that may be owned by your school, place the alarm in a strategic area, which is right at the guard post at the school gate.

Then in front of the classroom door or close to the teachers' desks which of course cannot be reached by students, so when the perpetrator manages to break into the front door, the alarm will be sounded, giving students and teachers a few minutes to prepare themselves either running to the back door or entering the bulletproof room that has been prepared.

Conclusion

So back again, actually the way to avoid mass shootings is to remove the concept or system of bullying that is rooted in the school, inviting friends who tend to be loners to start making friends.

That way the tragedy of murder will not happen and not be repeated, besides of course the school can strengthen the security system of the school so that students and other teachers feel safer and more comfortable from psychopathic attacks that might attack at any time.

How Foreigners Make Money in Foreign Countries

Have you ever wondered how foreigners make money in Indonesia? Maybe you have and maybe you haven't, but for those of you who have, you might be thinking “Oh, maybe he's retired and just enjoying the rest of his life in the country where he lives”.

That's not wrong, but what you might want to realize is that foreigners or what we call tourists are actually working even though they are in a foreign country, and the way they make money is actually a bit different than most people.

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So here i will provide information on how these foreigners make money while in the country where they live now, now look carefully at the information :

1. Selling Goods Online

That's right, when they already live in a foreign country, the first thing they will do for those who do not work is to make money and for those who do not have the ability to play stocks / crypto, open a business in a foreign country or sell property in their homeland, of course selling online becomes the most loved thing by foreign guests living in the country they live in now.

Well the things they produce are of course various kinds of products such as home appliances/furnishings, designs, and the like that they make based on the inspiration they get where they are, for example if they are in a foreign country of course they will take inspiration from several places in the country as inspiration material, or they make with their own design style.

Then sold to overseas E-commerce such as shopify, wish or others, so of course it will be very profitable for them as long as they enjoy life in the foreign country.

2. Play Stocks/Crypto

There are also those who do work playing stocks or playing crypto, indeed these two things are different but both are done by investors today, and of course those who are already rich will not sell by opening an offline business or selling online anymore.

These foreign tourists will stay in luxury villas or apartments that they have rented for a full day, for money problems they don't need to worry because they are already rich from the results of this job.

3. Selling Property Overseas

This can happen if they work as property sales agents but live or settle in Indonesia for a long time.

Actually this is not a problem for them, wherever they are they can still run this business because if they are a property sales agent then they have what is called subordinates or staff who are already prepared to be in their home country.

4. Opening an Offline Business

Most foreign guests will open an offline business, well this offline business will be run mostly by local people, so this foreign guest will provide initial capital as the establishment of his business, let's say this foreign tourist wants to open a restaurant then what he will do is provide initial capital to people who want to work with him.

Now the person who wants to work together will be given the position as head manager of the business to be run, because he is given the highest position of course he must be responsible for all managerial inside and outside the business later.

Now the foreign tourist only has to wait for his plants to bear fruit every month, so indirectly he has invested in the program he created.

Is this legal ? Of course it's legal because this is not much different from what big foreign companies do to open branches in foreign countries, starting from managerial positions to the bottom must be prioritized by local people where the company is located because it is already stated in the law.

5. Become a Vlogger (YouTube) or Writer (Blogger)

Now some foreign guests who live in the country where they live now must have a job as a vlogger on a YouTube platform or a writer on a blog like this okagilmer does, but of course the topics they bring can be different.

They could be discussing travel topics, discussing hats about beauty blogs and the like, well they can get dollars from various things that of course they make on the YouTube platform or blog.

Either from people who are willing to place advertisements on their platforms, or if these foreign guests open writing courses on blogs or beauty courses such as beauty vloggers/bloggers can also and can earn.

Not only courses and advertising on their web/platform, they can also place Adsense ads there, so that their income increases many times over and they don't need to work offline or sell this or that anymore, they just sit back in the vill while writing or creating YouTube content and the money will continue to flow without fear of running out of money.

6. Using a Employment Visa

Usually there are also foreigners who work in a foreign country where they live using a employment visa, now this work visa can usually be applied for by an immigration agent in the country where you want to work.

For example if you are Mexican and you want to work in America, of course you have to have an American work visa and to make it you have to go to the American immigration officer, so that way those in the foreign country can work using the work visa in the country they are going to.

Now so these foreigners or tourists usually work through several middlemen, either from the employment agency or directly taken from a branch company in their native country.

So don't be surprised if there are foreigners in one of the big companies in your country, they could be using a work visa to work.

Conclusion

Well maybe that's just a few ways how foreigners earn money, wherever they are of course they will still work, it's just that we as ordinary people may rarely know about the work they are involved in, so again hopefully this information is very, very useful for you, thank you .

The Importance of Having a Boundary Wall or Commitment to Yourself

Boundary Wall or people call it Border is a term often used by Indonesian youth to explain that they have a boundary that should not be crossed.

The limit is in the form of a commitment that should not be violated as long as it is not time, for example, such as abstaining from looking for women before success or abstaining from smoking before adulthood, well these are things that are very clichéd but of course they are very very important in this life.

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Well maybe you still think why humans have to have a boundary wall or a border on themselves? Isn't it without that they can do everything ?

So on this occasion I will provide information in the form of several points that I have summarized several things why having a barrier or barrier is very important, well what are they? let's discuss together below :

1. Self-Consciousness

The first benefit is self-awareness, well you should know that having a barrier in yourself can make you become aware of yourself, aware here is aware of your position.

Just imagine when you often watch porn, you feel eager to master the beautiful and handsome women / men according to what you expect, without this barrier, of course you will definitely look for the opposite sex easily and even be willing to commit criminal acts in the real world as a result of unstoppable lust, right ?

Well this is where the border or barrier is useful, the border or barrier or can be said to be this commitment is there to limit the movement and also the silly and stupid actions that you will do later, when you feel you want to have sex then you realize yourself that you are still not old enough, don't have money, not ready to take responsibility, not ready to provide for children and wife, what if the woman is even worse condition, not ready to be in prison, not even able to make the woman who will be invited to have sex happy.

All of that will appear in your head long before you do the depraved act, well that's the self-limiter / border in the self.

2. It's Easier to Focus on What You Want to Achieve

When you have a commitment or boundary wall, then you will usually focus on that commitment, if you don't want to find a girlfriend until you make money at least more successful than now, of course you won't look for a woman.

You will focus first on how to be successful in order to earn more and better than what you have now, so of course you will definitely focus on making yourself successful first.

Conclusion

Well, maybe those are just a few points that i can give you about the importance of having walls or barriers or commitments to yourself, so that with this invisible barrier that exists within you, you don't necessarily do anything or everything without limits.

Of course, you still have to be able to use common sense and sort out what is good and what is bad, so that you can avoid what is called a disaster due to your carelessness.

4 Characteristics of Tourist Destinations that are Not Good to Visit

Sometimes when we have a lot of money and we want to go on vacation then we think of going to places where there are a lot of tourist attractions that can be visited.

These tourist attractions can be very, very good and refreshing for the eyes because of the beauty offered at these tourist attractions, such as Raja Ampat, Kelingking Beach, Lake 3 Warna, Lake Biru, and others.

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Not only that, the people around the place are very friendly and welcome the arrival of foreign and local tourists, well of course it is also an attraction for people who really want to vacation in tourist attractions like that.

Well, but the fact is that there are also some tourist attractions or places that become the point of point for foreign travelers or tourists which are very bad and not suitable for visiting, so maybe on this occasion I will explain a few points that I have summarized “whether these tourist attractions are good or not to visit”, well what are they ? let's discuss together below :

1. Local People Who Always See and Follow You Wherever You Go

If you are a woman and you feel that there is someone from the locals who looks at your appearance from top to bottom so that they keep staring at you and follow you wherever you go.

Then make sure you go to a slightly crowded place and blend in with the crowd so that those who are following you lose track of you, so that you can avoid them.

If that doesn't work, then make sure you shout and point at the person who keeps following you so that the people there will turn towards the person who has followed you so that way you can run and go to a safe place.

Well if that happens make sure you don't visit the place where you got it again because indeed if there are people like that usually they will mostly do bad to foreign tourists who are traveling, maybe they just went to the place for the first time and of course even experience problems like that.

2. There Are a lot of People Hanging Out Outside and Cat Calling You

Avoid people who are hanging out outside the house, okay if you see those whose age is not so mature, aka still young people especially they might just hang out, it doesn't matter.

However, if the people who gather are staring at you and even doing cat calling then never turn your head and leave the place quickly, it could be that they have their own agenda whether it wants to demean you in front of their friends or worse.

3. Don't Go to Places Like Criminal Territory

Not all of  places contain criminal people but at certain points in the city there is certainly a gangster territory who does not hesitate to beat you if you accidentally find trouble with them.

Well actually in some foreign countries also certainly have such dangerous areas, so of course you have to avoid places like this if you want to try to visit places that you think are interesting.

4. Zero Security Quality

Have you ever gone to a tourist spot but the tourist spot could have taken someone's life because the quality of security offered could not cover the visitors who were there properly? Yes, not all tourist attractions are like that but make sure you stay away from tourist attractions that have zero quality or security system, aka many minuses.

Whether from outside or from inside the tourist attractions, make sure you can enjoy the place that will be a visit to the tourist destination better.

5. Too Many Extortionists

Extortion is a detrimental thing whether it is the surrounding community or tourists who want to visit the relevant tourist attractions, just imagine when we want to go to a tourist spot that shows a beautiful view.

Not until a few hundred meters from the location of the tourist attraction, we have been stopped by people who claim to be from the area and ask for payment to enter the place, not to mention that there are extortion again every few hundred meters of the road or at the location, making the tourist attractions even more deserted - deserted and even abandoned.

So if you see a tourist spot that contains extortion and you experience it, then you should viralize or leave the tourist spot, it means that the tourist spot is not good to visit.

Conclusion

Well maybe that's just some characteristics of tourist destinations that are not good to visit, there is indeed one more characteristic such as the nature of the people of the place who are not welcome to our presence.

So by knowing these characteristics early, it is hoped that you will be able to see which places are not good to visit for preventive measures so that you don't lose going to these places.