Cheating is something that is very much avoided by couples in all parts of the world because this action can make a long-established relationship fall to pieces.
Well why does that happen ? it can happen if one partner feels that his/her rights in the relationship are not being fulfilled, whatever it is and he/she sees him/herself as the partner who doesn't really know and understand.
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Because most of you might be thinking, "why would anyone be in a relationship that is so beautiful, looks like it will last for a very long time even until they become grandparents" but behind the scenes, one of them decides to have an affair, well of course we as ordinary people will not understand what really happened right ?
Well on this occasion i will give some of my opinions which I have summarized into several main points why they do the affair, and these points you can see below, well what are they? let's discuss together :
1. No Longer Attractive
Someone is willing to have an affair in front of or behind their partner just because they have a statement that their partner is no longer attractive, well with this kind of clichéd reason that they can easily tell this to people.
Now unattractive here could mean a wide range, whether appearance, thoughts/mindset, traits and the like which can make the cheater then step away little by little and re-build a relationship with someone else.
Of course, this type of person will not feel grateful and enough, when they see that their new partner has a flaw, they will search again and again, and in the end they will only look for someone attractive and interesting continuously, who can be their future partner.
2. Already Different in Principle
When a relationship is shrouded by different principles then the relationship is only a matter of time until the relationship destroyed by itself, well this is what people who are having an affair might feel.
They think that their relationship with their ex- previous partner has different principles, all kinds of principles begin to look different when they talk about minor things until it becomes a bigger, such as maybe the husband / man wants to stay at home on weekends but the wife / woman wants to go on vacation, from these small differences in principles can slowly lead to the next big problem and make one of the couples willing to let go of the relationship they have built for years.
3. No Support System
This can also happen if one partner is not sensitive to their partner, when one partner wants a support system, but the other partner doesn't care and feels it is not necessary or indeed he/she is not used to being a support system.
Now the effect can be seen at the end where those who feel they lack a support system then look for someone who might be able and have the support system, well they hope that the support system that the other person might have can help them.
And of course up to a certain point those who are looking for a support system may have a relationship with the person who provides the support system (if indeed the person is the opposite sex from him and is able to make him comfortable), of course infidelity ensues.
4. Not Appreciated
An affair occurs starting from not being appreciated by a partner, not being appreciated in various ways, whether never helping with housework, looking after the child and so on when the wife certainly needs a break from her daily work.
Then there is also a husband who is not appreciated by his wife, the husband is tired from work then decides to go home from work but the wife who does not care about him then starts to bother him or give bad and negative things to the husband, the effect is of course the husband is a little more angry and annoyed then he can think of looking for someone third party who can make his heart and mind calm, well infidelity happens.
Well not only that but there are also other things that might happen, such as not respecting the words of a partner, a simple example like this :
When one of the female partners says that she wants to marry her partner immediately, the man who listens then agrees to that.
The next day the man started to be willing to buy their wedding rings, the woman who saw this was very happy, but at the end, the man apparently made a joke where he didn't really agree to the plan to marry his partner, well The woman feels disappointed and then can only reflect on her boyfriend's behavior, now that is also part of her partner's sense of "disrespect" which can lead to her partner having an affair.
5. Wife Doesn't Provide for Husband's Inner Life
Most men are sometimes reluctant to divorce, it is because they seem to keep their partner's heart, and see their partner perfect in all the fields they live in such as housewives, washing clothes, making breakfast, taking care of the child and so on, but the name of a cracked relationship is impossible to patch back like a punctured tire.
Well divorce cases usually start from infidelity, and the reason some men cheat on their spouses could be because the wife does not provide Inner Living to her husband as often as her husband wants.
In effect, the husband looks for other women out there who can fulfill these sexual desires, and the reason why they keep their wives and do not try to divorce them is because no one can replace the habit of being a wife who is already good and good at work.
Conclusion
Well maybe that's 4 reasons why there are still people who are cheated on, both men and women, it's actually not the face that men are looking for, indeed men will see a woman's face at the beginning when they first have a relationship.
However, the longer the relationship, most of them just realized that physicality and wealth are not the determinants of comfort and strength of a bond of love with each other in a relationship, but rather helping each other in all problems and also understanding each other's shortcomings that can strengthen the inner bond with a partner.